PARENT AT 25?

I've been continuously fascinated by the thought of being a father. This is now almost a permanent thought in my head; something I think of on the regular. I guess it's because of the society. (We always have to blame society first.) I also think that it's because of the fact that 50% of the people I knew in campus are either parents already or will soon be. Some of my childhood friends are also young parents. However, I recently found out that not everyone will share the joy of me having a kid. . .at this young age. (I'm not even 25 BTW)

We're all aware that premarital sex is wrong according to the Bible. We're also fully aware (and if you didn't know this, you need to open your eyes wider) that Kenya is a f**kin nation. Left, right and center, everyone wants to get laid. It shouldn't be a surprise to see one of your friends, one of your cousins and one of your Exs fully loaded with another human being inside them. At this point is when I have a problem with the society. Kenyans need to learn how to focus on the most important aspect of a situation.

As a guy, it is usually not that bad. If you have a father who is still African, he will be proud of you after you impregnate a lady. You will probably earn more respect from him and any other male member of the family. You will probably know the share of your inheritance at this point. On the other hand, the lady doesn't get so much of a royal treat just because of the swollen belly.

I've never understood why people would label someone a whore just because they're pregnant. I don't understand why you would beat up your daughter because she is pregnant. I don't understand why parents waste their time and other resources trying to turn the situation from a pregnancy to a crime, the father of the child being a criminal for impregnating their daughter.

I'm not trying to justify premarital sex here. I'm just trying to understand why it is so hard for us to think positively about any pregnancy. If you've never known this, lemme tell it to you for free: there are a lot of people out there that don't want you to be a parent. Your parents, your Exs, your 'friends' ... anybody you can think of. But that's not the point. The point is, we need to treat this situation better. Accepting that someone made a mistake and got your daughter pregnant will make the situation better. Accepting that you forgot to take your birth control pills will make the situation better. Accepting that you're jobless but will struggle to provide for your kid in one way or another will make the situation better. Maybe all these abortions wouldn't happen if a lady wasn't so scared of what her father would do to her.

As a society, we need to accept that the youth will make a lot of mistakes. We also need to make sure that we'll be there to pick them up and continue with the journey of life. I just hate how everyone views you as the sodom and gomora Whore Of The Month just because you're a parent at 25.